It’s hard to explain the impact this music has had on me. When I’m dancing to Gipsy Kings, it’s pure ecstasy. I’m completely alive, with zero doubts (as you can see in this video 😅). Dancing to a few of their songs can get me through a whole day. Imagine my delight to be in Andalucia, where you hear this music in concerts, in restaurants, in popular music, and just about anywhere you go.

I love how these colors, shapes, and textures are the way the world invites me to come out beyond my edges. The queen of this 3D world is beauty. She inspires me to soften, open and experience wonder and awe (my natural state).

I’m doing it. I’m on my first big sola trip in 30 years. Estoy en España! Lots to say about why Spain is so deeply embedded in my heart. For now, though, I’m just reveling in the beginning of the adventure! And sharing a few pics.

Something I hear a lot from my students and clients is: I don’t even know how to think about what I need. I wouldn’t even know where to start.

Many of my clients are deep in the throes of chronic illness, so they actually do focus on themselves—but usually from the angle of How can I fix what’s wrong with me? That’s a very different question than What do I truly need?

I spent years chasing the answers, desperately trying to figure out what was wrong with my body and how to fix it. I kept assuming that the answer was complicated and that it would come from outside of me

What if your relationship with yourself could become the blueprint for every other relationship in your life? Instead of waiting for someone else to love, cherish, celebrate or deeply understand you, you can begin creating those experiences for yourself right now. It’s simpler (and more fun) than you might think.

How do we cut through the platitudes and actually create the internal relationship we are longing for? In my 5 year journey to rehabilitate my nervous system and heal old trauma, I’ve found three distinct “flavors” of Self-love to have a deep and lasting impact on my life. Plus, I’m sharing simple, everyday action to bring each of these flavors into into your 3D life.

• offering myself grace

• learning to self-parent

• caring for my adult needs
  
  

For years, rushing and relentless problem-solving felt like essential parts of who I was. Through nervous system rehabilitation, I began to recognize them as survival patterns that were keeping me stuck in chronic stress.

Yes, I had to give up the adrenaline and dopamine hits that came with manic creativity and problem-solving. But I’ve gained so much more: deep peace, authentic joy, and vibrant health.

A story (about me). For decades, one woman devoted herself to being good, keeping the peace, and making everyone else happy. She was so focused on giving and doing that her body eventually shut down. This is the deeply personal journey of finding my way back to my True Self and discovering that self-love was not selfish after all. It was the nourishment that made a healthy, happy life possible.

Back when I was in full-on codependent mom mode, I was devoted to everyone around me. But I was barely present for myself. In this conversation with my adorably over-giving, over-doing former self, I look at the fears and beliefs that made taking care of myself feel impossible.

So much education happened right there in 30 seconds: Parenting 101, Life 101, Health 101

It had never dawned on me that:

1. I deserved to be really well taken care of.
2. It’s primarily my job to make sure that happens.
3. If I expect to have anything to offer anyone else, I need to make sure I’m resourced first.